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DearGrief — A big hug, delivered straight to your mailbox.

Find quiet comfort in your mailbox.

A uniquely curated experience to help you honor your grief, practice self-care, and stay connected to your child.

Receive Your First Envelope
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Introducing
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After my son Cameron died, I created something I wish someone had handed me.

DearGrief is a monthly physical care envelope delivered straight to your door. It's designed to help you practice making room for grief in your life, without it feeling like an overwhelming chore.

The goal is to give grief a safe place to breathe so when you go out into the world, YOU can be the one running the show.

Every month, I personally curate a physical envelope filled with zero noise, zero pressure, and total support.

Inside the monthly envelope:

Meets You Exactly Where You Are, No Matter the Timeline

DearGrief is not a program and requires no homework or assignments. Every month's envelope is a gentle invitation that fits wherever you stand today.

Words That Deeply Resonate

A heartfelt letter from a mom who walks this exact path right alongside you. No platitudes, just real understanding.

Connection Photo

A monthly guiding image acting as a visual prompt to spot subtle moments of peace, quiet beauty, and signs of continued connection in your daily life.

Zero-Effort Tools

Bite-sized, actionable ways to make the heavy, loud days feel just a little more manageable. You don't have to think or plan. You just have to open the envelope.

Intentional Rituals & Activities

Gentle invitations to help you pause, breathe, navigate who you are now, and tune into your child's presence in your everyday life.

Hope & Continuous Encouragement

A tangible reminder that you are never alone, and it is completely okay to be exactly where you are.

Your Physical Toolbox for Healing

Over time, these monthly envelopes naturally accumulate into a physical toolbox. It becomes a sacred collection of resources you can reach into on the hard days, whenever you need it most.

Included In US Memberships

Exclusive Special Keepsake
(US Only - Ends 9/6)

Custom Wood Engraving Portrait Keepsake

Custom Wooden Engraved Photo

There is a simple, universal truth to living with loss: a parent just wants to see their child's face. To honor that, every membership includes a custom portrait etched directly into a block of wood.

Send us your favorite picture to be permanently etched as art. Display it anywhere you like.

Unique Keepsake

A completely custom, beautiful piece of art. It is a rare, tangible way to display your favorite photo, resulting in something very few people have but every parent will deeply treasure.

Honoring Them

A warm, natural wood rendering of your child's face, meant to be placed on a bedside table, kitchen window, or wherever you love to look at them most.

Shared Journeys

Words from Grieving Parents

Created by Emily Graham: Author of Confessions of Child Loss Keynote Speaker, Bereaved Parents of the USA Community of 25,000+ Bereaved Parents
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Community feedback
Comfort Found Here

"I will admit that I initially didn’t want to open it because I've been carefully trying to control my grief, and I was nervous about what it would bring up. But when I did, I was genuinely touched by the gesture and authenticity. Knowing it came from Emily made it very special. Everything inside was intentional and well thought out. If you are nervous, you don't need to be."

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Susan S. Mitch's Mom
Made Me Feel Seen

"DearGrief is one of the few things I've received that truly made me feel seen as a grieving parent. From the moment I saw the envelope, I knew it was different. [...] I’m a hands-on, visual person, and having something in my hand to read, do, or look at is so much more meaningful than a post on Facebook. Every detail feels intentional because Emily pours her heart into it. It gave me something to anticipate, and in grief, having something that brings comfort, connection, and even a little bit of hope is incredibly valuable. I can't wait to see what arrives next!"

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Diantha G. Ellen's Mom
Memberships & Gifting

Choose Your Path

Whether you need a flexible month-to-month lifeline or a permanent recurring ritual, choose the path that fits your current space. Every single plan includes your custom photo keepsake.

Ongoing Support (USA)

Monthly (USA)

Our most flexible option

$12 / month

Perfect for taking things month-by-month without a long-term commitment.

  • A monthly DearGrief envelope with all core contents
  • Custom wood photo engraving (sent month 3)
  • Billed monthly. Cancel easily at any time
Select Monthly Path
One Month Free

Annual (USA)

Built to form a lasting, sacred ritual

$132 / year

Built for the parent looking to establish a lasting, sacred ritual to carry their child's memory through every changing season.

  • 12 DearGrief envelopes delivered monthly
  • Custom wood photo engraving (sent month one)
  • One month free. Billed annually. Automatically renews every 12 months
Select Annual Path
Finite Journeys • Great for Yourself or as a Gift

One-Time Support Packages

The ultimate way to say "I haven't forgotten" or to give yourself a season of support. These do not auto-renew.

3-Month Journey (US)

$36 One-Time
  • 3 months of envelope contents
  • Custom wood photo engraving included
  • Handwritten note by Emily inside
Choose 3 Months
Most Thoughtful

6-Month Journey (US)

$72 One-Time
  • 6 months of envelope contents
  • Custom wood photo engraving included
  • Handwritten note by Emily inside
Choose 6 Months

1-Year Journey (US)

$144 One-Time
  • 12 months of envelope contents
  • Custom wood photo engraving included
  • Handwritten note by Emily inside
Choose 1 Year

Note: These are One-Time payments. They expire automatically at the end of the term and never auto-renew.

International Memberships (Non-USA)

International Monthly

$17 /month
  • A monthly DearGrief envelope delivered globally
  • Billed monthly. Cancel easily at any time.
Select International Monthly

International Annual

$187 /year
  • 12 DearGrief envelopes, delivered monthly
  • Billed one-time annually. Automatically renews every 12 months.
Select International Annual
Exactly What I Needed

"I knew who the envelope was from, so I knew it would be filled with love, helpful advice, and someone who shares my experience. Emily gets me. I felt embraced by her. She’s honest and shares her experiences and tools to guide us. I have already reread the DearGrief letter twice… the last three sentences are what I need to read every day. Join it’s amazing."

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Patte W. Kayla's Mom
Thoughtfully Designed

"I think it's amazing. In early grief specifically, when you're just searching for something to help you, it's like, I wanted things to do. There’s a lot of really good stuff in there to help people connect, and I love it. [...] a lot of thought (went) into it. I love how it’s presented and my little craft... all of it. How'd you get all these ideas?"

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Becky B. Keira's Mom
Emily Graham
Emily Graham Author & Founder

"I built what I wish I'd had when my world split in two."

On Christmas Day in 2015, my world changed forever when my son, Cameron, died. In the years that followed, I learned that child loss isn't just a heavy sadness, it's a deeply physical, overwhelming experience that disrupts your entire world. Nothing about it was what I expected, and society’s pressure to quickly "heal" or find "closure" only made the isolation heavier.

It took me years of trial-and-error to discover the things that actually helped.

I created DearGrief because digital connection is only one piece of the puzzle. Scrolling through everyone else's seemingly intact lives can be exhausting when you're carrying deep loss. Grief lives in our physical bodies, inside our homes, and sometimes the digital world just adds to the noise.

We need something we can actually hold in our hands.

Every box, ritual, and radically honest word inside DearGrief is curated by me, straight from my heart to your mailbox. My mission is to give you a quiet, screen-free space to unplug, tend to yourself, and practice the act of grieving so it becomes easier to carry it with you as you go back into life.

— Emily Graham
Author of Confessions of Child Loss
Founder of DearGrief & After Child Loss
Frequently Asked Questions

Got Questions?

About DearGrief

It’s for any parent who has lost a child regardless of age and how much time has passed.
Yes. Everyone who becomes a member will receive the keepsake. Limit one per customer (including if you were to cancel and return at a later time).

Delivery & Shipping

Letters are mailed on the 7th of every month. Domestic delivery typically takes 3 to 7 business days via standard USPS First-Class mail. International shipping can take 2 to 6 weeks depending on the destination.
The engraving takes longer to create and is sent separately. Therefore, may arrive after your initial letter.
Please allow up to 14 days from our mail-out date for the postal service to deliver it. If it still hasn't arrived by then, email us at [email protected] and we will send a replacement.
If the post office returns your envelope due to an incorrect or insufficient address, we will reach out to confirm your details and coordinate sending it out again.
Yes, international letters typically take 2 to 6 weeks depending on the destination.

Membership & Account Management

To change your shipping details, email us at [email protected]. Please make this change before the 1st of the month to ensure your next letter goes to the correct location.
To receive the upcoming month's letter, you must become a member by the last day of the current month.
You can cancel your membership at any time by emailing us at [email protected]. We will continue sending through the end of your term.
Your first bill occurs immediately when you sign up, and subsequent renewals are charged on the same date each month thereafter. If you signed up for an annual membership, it will renew one year after the date of original purchase.

Gifting

Absolutely. Enter the recipient’s name and address in the shipping address fields at checkout, and use your own details for the billing address.
Please contact us if you would like to purchase a subsription for someone not in the US. You can reach out at: [email protected].
Yes. You can include a note at checkout, and I will handwrite your message and place it inside their letter.

Custom Engraving

The monthly and annual US subscriptions, as well as the 3, 6, and 12 month gift options for US addresses are eligible to receive the engraving.
Monthly US subscribers who maintain their subscription for at least 3 months will receive their engraving after their third month. If you cancel prior to month 3 you will not be eligible for the engraving.

Annual US subscribers and US gift subscribers will be sent the engraving in month one.

Engravings are mailed separately from your monthly DearGrief letter.
By default, the engraving is not included for non-US members. This is due to the additional expense of shipping, customs, and VAT. If you wish to receive the engraving, please reach out to [email protected] for details.
The quality of the engraving is directly impacted by the quality of the image. We need a high resolution image with good contrast.
Every engraving will be different and are impacted by two major things.

The first is the quality of the image. We do what we can to edit the image, but if you don't see a high quality image it may not produce a great result.

The second is the wood. Wood is a natural product with wood grains, imperfections, and varying density that can make every engraving result different.

If not happy with your bonus keepsake, we can look into redoing it, but there will be a nomainal fee for materials, time, and shipping.
After subscribing you will be sent to a confirmation page where you can upload your image. Otherwise, you can email it to: [email protected].
Preparing and engraving your image is a time consuming process. To keep up with all engravings we ask that all annual and gift US subscribers submit their photos within 30 days of subscribing. For monthly US subscribers, please submit the image within 90 days of subscribing. If images are not submitted within those deadlines, we reserve the right to cancel the engraving.